Nicole Kidman talks about problems she faced raising children
"Every child is given some adversity": Nicole Kidman talks about the challenges she has faced in raising her children and how they coped with the loss of their father.
Nicole Kidman has openly discussed the parenting challenges she has faced, particularly in raising her two adopted children, Isabella, 26, and Connor, 24, from her previous marriage to Tom Cruise. Despite the difficulties, she emphasizes the importance of unconditional love in motherhood.
In an interview with Tatler magazine, the Big Little Lies star revealed that she views motherhood as a journey and always strives to see it that way. She shared a piece of advice from her grandmother, who told her, "Every child is given some adversity. You'll know where they're born, what they're up against. You've got to educate them—help them understand the circumstances around where they were born. You're there as a guide."
Kidman expressed her belief that problems will always arise but emphasized that love is the key. She said, "And the biggest thing is there's enough love. I always try to think of that. When there's a problem, it's usually where you're not—couldn't—you're not loving enough. So I just keep putting that out there. 'I love you, I love you, I love you.'"
The actress also touched upon her relationship with her children after her divorce from Tom Cruise in 2001. Following the divorce, Kidman faced challenges in maintaining a close bond with Isabella and Connor due to their association with the Church of Scientology, of which Cruise is a prominent member. Kidman later married Keith Urban in 2006, and they have two biological daughters together.
In the interview, Kidman acknowledged the difficulties in navigating her children's lives, particularly when they were raised within the Scientology faith. Despite the challenges, she emphasized the importance of love and inclusion, stating, "Love is enough. It sets a framework and boundaries and offers support. I try to be that for my children."
Regarding her daughter Isabella's wedding in 2015, Kidman revealed that she was not present at the ceremony in London, suggesting potential strains in their relationship. However, she expressed her belief that her children are capable of making their own decisions and being self-sufficient.
Kidman also opened up about the impact of her father's death in 2014 and how it influenced her parenting approach. She shared the advice her father gave her, saying, "My dad said, 'Every child is given some adversity. Where you're born. You're born into circumstances—you could be born into extreme poverty, war, or you could be born into great privilege. You don't get to choose that. So, every child is given their set of circumstances. And then you have to learn to navigate within that.'"
In summary, Nicole Kidman reflects on the complexities of parenting, especially in unique circumstances, and underscores the enduring power of love in overcoming challenges.